1. Fear of Rejection. Despite how confident I like to think I am, there would have been nothing more Earth shattering then approaching a male, with a clear interest and purpose only to be denied. I was not for that. Not today. Not me Satan.
2. Appearing too CONFIDENT a.k.a INTIMIDATING! A stigma I deal with on a daily basis. I went back and forth in my head about approaching him for the fear that I might be perceived as “coming on too strong”, “too confident”, “emasculating”, and a host of other effects that appear on the dating scene today when you are a woman who goes for what she wants.
3. He was ALREADY TAKEN. I spent forty-five minutes telling myself this man already had a love interest in his life. He is too good looking to be single. He has to be in a relationship. Do you see a ring? Now I love a good looking chocolate man as much as the next woman, but I would never push up on another woman’s man.
But luckily I was with a friend who is way more practical, encouraging, and anti-dramatic to coax me down. Now he is a male so those traits came in handy when I realized the “very attractive, tall man at the bar” potentially didn’t approach me because I was already with another male.
Yes. I said it. “He definitely would have approached me had I not been with another male.”
Or at least I would like to think so.